Do I need to be into one specific fandom?

No — questions cover gaming, comics, sci-fi, anime, board games, tech, and general "I went deep on this" experiences. Something will land.

No. Questions reward enthusiasm regardless of whether you started yesterday or 20 years ago.

Best for solo or group?

Group, by a wide margin — the fun is comparing how niche your specific obsession is versus the room.

Geeky & Niche

Have you ever spent hours learning the rules to a complex board game like Gloomhaven or Twilight Imperium?

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Why people ask this

This question works because the yes-or-no split always surprises the room — someone answers in a way nobody expected, and the conversation starts from there. Niche obsessions are usually masked in public; this question is one of the few permission slips to admit how deep the rabbit hole actually goes. Questions like this one get played across every kind of group on have.you — couples on a first date, coworkers at team events, friends on long drives. Each setting produces a different answer, which is part of why Have You Ever has stayed in circulation long after most party games get retired.

What do players say?

25%

of players said Yes
8 responses

Based on 8 answers so far, 25% of players say yes — making this less common than most people assume.

Discussion starters

→ Who in the group is most likely to have spent hours learning the rules to a complex board game like Gloomhaven or Twilight Imperium?
→ What's the full story — and who in the group is most surprised by your answer?
→ What fandom do you keep quiet about in public?
→ What is the most you have spent on something nobody else in your life understands?
→ What hobby has earned you the most "are you okay?" looks?

Delve into how passionate and dedicated you are with this intriguing question that uncovers your willingness to invest time in mastering complex board games like Gloomhaven or Twilight Imperium. It’s a fun way to reveal your geeky side and love for niche hobbies.

What This Question Really Asks

This question explores your dedication to mastering intricate rulesets and your patience for deep gameplay strategies. It’s not just about the game itself, but about your willingness to commit time and effort. Here’s what it uncovers:

How much you enjoy complex strategic challenges
Your level of patience and perseverance
Willingness to learn detailed rules and systems
Your enthusiasm for niche hobbies and fandoms, like board gaming
Whether you prefer casual play or long, immersive gaming sessions

How to Use This Question

Setting	Tone	Best for	Tip
Friends game night	Playful and curious	Getting to know your friends’ gaming depths	Use it to spark conversations about shared hobbies in classic questions.
First date	Sincere and engaging	Discovering passions and hobbies	Frame it as a fun challenge to see who’s the real strategy master.
Team meeting	Informal and friendly	Breaking the ice in a casual way	Pair it with discussing other hobbies or niche interests.
Family dinner	Lighthearted and warm	Sharing hobbies across generations	Use to learn about family members’ secret hobbies or passions in Geeky & Niche categories.
Party	Humorous and lively	Creating memorable stories	Encourage everyone to share their own geeky pursuits.

When You Say "Yes"

You are committed to understanding every rule detail, even for the most complicated games.
You prefer deep, strategic gameplay over quick sessions.
You’ve spent evenings watching tutorials or reading rulebooks to master a game.
You enjoy explaining rules to others and helping friends learn complex games.
You’re proud of your collection of niche or heavy-duty strategy games, like your comprehensive board game library.

When You Say "No"

Not everyone has the time or patience for intense rule-learning, and that’s perfectly okay. Some might prefer lighter, quicker games or casual hobbies instead.

You tend to choose simpler games that don’t require hours of learning.
You prefer playing games without extensive rulebooks or tutorials.
Strategic complexity isn’t your primary interest—you’re about fun and socializing.