Have you ever done something so strange in private you'd never admit in public?

Why people ask this

This question works because the yes-or-no split always surprises the room — someone answers in a way nobody expected, and the conversation starts from there. Gross questions earn their place because the laughter they trigger is louder than almost any other category — horror and humour share more wiring than people think. Questions like this one get played across every kind of group on have.you — couples on a first date, coworkers at team events, friends on long drives. Each setting produces a different answer, which is part of why Have You Ever has stayed in circulation long after most party games get retired.

What do players say?

100%

of players said Yes
7 responses

Based on 7 answers so far, 100% of players say yes — making this one of the most common experiences players own up to.

Discussion starters

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→ What bodily function story do you swear is true?

Ever found yourself doing something so bizarre or embarrassing in private that you’d never dream of showing others? This question uncovers those secret, weird moments we keep to ourselves. If you're curious about more how-and-why questions, explore our deep and meaningful category for thought-provoking topics.

What This Question Really Asks

This question dives into the hidden, often humorous or cringe-worthy moments we reserve for our private lives. It reveals the amusing or shocking habits that we're too shy—or too embarrassed—to admit publicly. This can lead to some hilarious confessions or surprising stories about what people do behind closed doors. For example, you might learn about someone’s bizarre routines or secret adventures that would never see the light of day. If you're interested in funnier or even embarrassing stories, check out our funny and embarrassing category. Additionally, it’s a perfect prompt to start more classic conversations about quirks and habits that make each person unique.

Uncover secret habits or rituals you might find amusing or shocking
Explore the hidden sides of friends or partners that are usually kept private
Encourage humorous storytelling about embarrassing private moments
Delve into the weird or gross things people do when no one’s around, like in Gross & Weird
Learn what behaviors are considered humorous, strange, or taboo when kept secret

How to Use This Question

Setting	Tone	Best for	Tip
Friends game night	Playful, light-hearted	Breaking the ice, sharing laughs	Use humor to encourage openness, and suggest everyone share their most bizarre secret to get the ball rolling.
First date	Warm, slightly vulnerable	Building trust, deepening connection	Frame it as a fun way to get to know each other’s quirks—be ready to reciprocate with your own secret for balance.
Team meeting	Casual, engaging	Lighten the mood, foster bonding	Bring levity with a question that scores giggles, but keep it appropriate for workplace vibe.
Family dinner	Comforting, humorous	Share laughs and anecdotes	Encourage family members to reveal funny or surprising stories from their private life, strengthening bonds.
Party	Fun, silly	Getting everyone to open up quickly	Use this question as an icebreaker—everyone loves a good secret story, especially when it’s weird or gross.

When You Say "Yes"

You are comfortable sharing your most bizarre or embarrassing private habits.
You believe everyone has strange or funny secrets they hide from the public eye.
You’re open to hearing the wild, weird, or gross things others do in private.
You feel that revealing odd private moments can help build trust and intimacy.
You're intrigued by the secret lives people lead outside of public view, like in our categories.

When You Say "No"

Refusing to answer this question might mean you prefer keeping your private moments private or you’re feeling shy about revealing your secrets. Some reasons for saying no include:

Preferring to keep certain behaviors confidential
Feeling uncomfortable discussing private or gross details
Not wanting to admit to strange or embarrassing habits in public

Best Follow-Up Questions

What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever done in private?
Have you ever been caught doing something weird?
What's a secret guilty pleasure you keep hidden?
Would you ever share your weirdest private story with someone?
How do you think people would react if they knew your secret habits?

For more ideas on how to deepen your conversations, try exploring our collection of classic questions.

Pro tip: Use this question to spark candid conversations in group settings. Want to make it even more personalized? Build your own game with our custom question sets.

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