Have you ever joined a club or team just because your crush was in it?

Why people ask this

Relationship questions always land because the honest answer is rarely the one people rehearsed on the way over. Relationship questions cut deeper than people expect because the honest answer is rarely the one rehearsed — and this question rewards honesty. Questions like this one get played across every kind of group on have.you — couples on a first date, coworkers at team events, friends on long drives. Each setting produces a different answer, which is part of why Have You Ever has stayed in circulation long after most party games get retired.

What do players say?

59%

of players said Yes
17 responses

Based on 17 answers so far, 59% of players say yes — making this something the majority of players have actually done.

Discussion starters

→ Who in the group is most likely to have joined a club or team just because your crush was in it?
→ Be honest — would you tell the whole story, or just the version that makes you look good?
→ When did you last have a real crush?
→ What is the kindest thing an ex did for you?
→ What is something you wish you had said to someone?

Ever found yourself joining a club or team just to get closer to your crush? This question uncovers those little moments of romantic motivation and how far you're willing to go for love. Want to explore more intriguing relationship questions? Check out our categories.

What This Question Really Asks

This question dives into the lengths you might go to impress or connect with someone special. It reveals whether actions are driven by genuine interest or romantic fascination. It’s also a fun way to reflect on past moments where feelings prompted bold or silly decisions. If you're curious about other questions that explore personal motivations, visit our deep and meaningful section.

If you’ve ever changed your behavior for a crush, this question makes you think about your motivations.
It sheds light on how romantic interest influences your choices and actions.
It can lead to funny or embarrassing stories about trying to impress someone.
Explore other classic scenarios in everyday questions to see how common these experiences are.
Use this question to spark honest conversations about past crushes and bold moves.

How to Use This Question

Setting	Tone	Best for	Tip
Friends game night	Playful, light-hearted	Breaking the ice or sharing funny stories	Encourage everyone to be honest and amusing — this keeps the vibe fun and open. Check out our group decider for fair game choices.
First date	Flirty, genuine	Getting to know each other's pasts and motivations	Use this question to reveal your own stories or to learn about their past experiences gently.
Team meeting	Professional yet friendly	Building camaraderie or workplace bonds	Remain respectful; the goal is fun insights, not judgment. Try it during casual brainstorming sessions.
Family dinner	Warm, nostalgic	Sharing childhood or teenage memories	Make it light and inclusive; everyone has a story behind their answer.
Party	Exciting, lively	Getting everyone talking and laughing	Pair this with a quick icebreaker for maximum fun.

When You Say "Yes"

You have acted on romantic feelings, perhaps joining something just to spend more time with your crush.
You’re willing to go out of your comfort zone for love or admiration.
You might have hidden your true intentions, making it a story you'll recall with a smile.
You’re open to new experiences, even if they seem a bit silly or impulsive.
It shows that romantic pursuits can sometimes motivate bold or unexpected actions, much like those featured in funny and embarrassing moments.

When You Say "No"

Refusing this question might mean you value genuine interest or prefer to keep your motives private. Alternatively, it could indicate that your reasons for joining are more about personal growth than romance.