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Why people ask this
This question works because the yes-or-no split always surprises the room — someone answers in a way nobody expected, and the conversation starts from there. Reflection questions stick around because they work in solitude as well as in groups; people return to them at year-end, on long flights, or after big losses. Have You Ever questions work because they give everyone the same binary entry point — yes or no — and then let the room decide how far to go. A quick nod counts. A ten-minute story also counts. The format never forces anyone to say more than they want to, which is exactly why people do.
What do players say?
13 responses
Based on 13 answers so far, 77% of players say yes — making this one of the most common experiences players own up to.
Discussion starters
- → Who in the group is most likely to have made a promise to yourself and kept it?
- → What's the full story — and who in the group is most surprised by your answer?
- → What is one thing you would tell your past self?
- → What is the bravest thing you have done in the last year?
- → What habit are you most proud of?
Reflecting on our personal commitments can reveal a lot about our values and discipline. Asking "Have you ever made a promise to yourself and kept it?" invites honest self-assessment and can spark meaningful conversations about integrity and growth.
What This Question Really Asks
This question delves into your self-discipline and how you follow through on your intentions. It’s a way to explore how much you trust yourself and your ability to honor commitments. When considering your answer, think about your personal resolve and what motivates you to stay true to your promises.
- Whether you value your own integrity and promises
- The circumstances that help or hinder keeping promises
- How consistent you are in adhering to your commitments
- Situations where you might have broken or kept vows to yourself
- How this habit impacts your personal growth and confidence
How to Use This Question
| Setting | Tone | Best for | Tip |
|---|---|---|---|
| Friends game night | Playful and honest | Getting personal stories | Encourage sharing stories about small or big promises made. Use group decider tools for fair turns. |
| First date | Warm and gentle | Building trust and connection | Share your own experience first to create openness and comfort. |
| Team meeting | Professional but sincere | Discussing accountability and reliability | Frame your question to promote transparency and team bonding. |
| Family dinner | Casual and heartfelt | Fostering family honesty | Relate it to family values and personal growth stories. |
| Party | Humorous and lighthearted | Breaking the ice with fun stories | Keep it playful; maybe ask about funny promises made in the past. |
When You Say "Yes"
- You value honesty with yourself above all else.
- You feel proud of your self-discipline and moral integrity.
- You are committed to personal growth and development.
- You trust your ability to follow through, even when it’s hard.
- You believe that keeping promises to yourself is key to self-respect and success.
When You Say "No"
Answering no can indicate various perspectives, such as:
- Not having made any significant promises to oneself yet
- Struggling with consistency or motivation
- Feeling that promises are more external commitments than internal ones
Best Follow-Up Questions
- What was the promise you most proud of keeping?
- What prevents you from keeping more promises to yourself?
- How do you decide which promises to make?
- Has keeping or breaking promises changed your outlook on life?
- Would you consider setting new personal goals based on your answer?
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