Will this hurt friendships?

It can — only play with people you trust, and respect every skip without comment.

How honest does the group have to be?

As honest as the group is comfortable being. Lying back is allowed; the game still works.

Three to four. Larger groups dilute the trust this category needs.

Secrets & Lies

Have you ever hidden a purchase from your partner or parents?

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Why people ask this

Relationship questions always land because the honest answer is rarely the one people rehearsed on the way over. This question travels because secrets are heavy and the urge to put one down — even just into a game — is stronger than most people admit. Questions like this one get played across every kind of group on have.you — couples on a first date, coworkers at team events, friends on long drives. Each setting produces a different answer, which is part of why Have You Ever has stayed in circulation long after most party games get retired.

What do players say?

91%

of players said Yes
22 responses

Based on 22 answers so far, 91% of players say yes — making this one of the most common experiences players own up to.

Discussion starters

→ Who in the group is most likely to have hidden a purchase from your partner or parents?
→ Be honest — would you tell the whole story, or just the version that makes you look good?
→ What is the longest you have kept a secret?
→ What is one lie you tell to keep the peace?
→ What is something you have done that nobody in this room knows?

Ever found yourself sneaking around to hide a purchase from your partner or parents? This secrets and lies question uncovers the sneaky side of honesty and transparency in our lives. Whether you're sharing stories or curious about others' experiences, it’s sure to spark some revealing conversations.

What This Question Really Asks

This question probes into moments when you've kept something from someone close, revealing your comfort level with honesty and privacy. It’s more about understanding personal boundaries than judgment. It can lead to discussions about values and trust, and even spark insights into why we sometimes hide things. Curious about what people consider acceptable or crossing boundaries? You can explore more questions about secrets & lies for deeper dives.

Have you ever felt guilty about hiding a purchase?
What’s the biggest purchase you’ve kept secret?
Do you think hiding a purchase is justified sometimes?
Would you confess about a purchase if asked directly?

How to Use This Question

Setting	Tone	Best for	Tip
Friends game night	Playful, revealing	Breaking the ice with fun confessions	Use a light-hearted approach — sharing your own stories makes others more comfortable. Check out group decider tools to pick the perfect questions.
First date	Warm, intriguing	Creating openness and trust	This question can help discover personal quirks, but keep it gentle to avoid discomfort.
Team meeting	Professional, casual	Building camaraderie	Share your own story first. Consider how this fits into the broader context of honesty at work.
Family dinner	Casual, honest	Learning about family secrets	Be respectful of boundaries; use to foster understanding rather than judgment.
Party	Fun, light	Getting to know people quickly	Keep it humorous to avoid making anyone uncomfortable. For more playful questions, visit categories.

When You Say "Yes"

You’re willing to admit you’ve done it and perhaps why.
You value privacy over complete transparency in your relationships.
You might feel guilty but justified in certain situations.
You are open to discussing finances or personal boundaries.
You’re comfortable sharing a funny or embarrassing story about a secret purchase. Deep conversations often start from honest admissions like this.

When You Say "No"

Declining this question can mean you're more private or cautious. You might feel that some secrets are better kept or simply dislike sharing.

You prefer to keep financial matters private.
You're uncomfortable admitting to secret purchases.
You value honesty but believe certain things are personal.

Best Follow-Up Questions

Have you ever regretted hiding a purchase?
What was your most surprising secret purchase?
Do you think secret spending can harm relationships?
Have you ever been caught hiding something?
What do you think is the line between privacy and dishonesty?

Looking to explore more about character and secrets? Check out our Secrets & Lies category for more intriguing questions to keep the conversations going.